My first marriage began with all the hopes and dreams of any young woman who has grown up, starry-eyed, impatiently looking forward to marriage – envisioning that glorious day dressed in white with a handsome groom, then cooking dinner in that first tiny apartment, later mothering the babies that would come along, and finally, dreaming of walking down a tree-lined lane, hand-in-hand, silver-haired, and still deeply in love.
Not too many years into my marriage, difficulties arose in our relationship, and my confusion was intense. I read books, I talked to church leaders, and still nothing I tried helped. I thought I was doing all I could to make marriage work, yet many nights we ended up on opposite sides of the bed, our backs to each other in painful silence.
I tried to be happy. Outside our home, I did my best to be upbeat and positive. People would say, “You guys have the perfect family!” But my mind was filled with questions. Were all marriages this painful? Were people lying to me when they said marriage could be good? Was everybody out there pretending?
When my first husband died in an accident, I thought my experiment with marriage was over, and I was ready to be just a mother and grandmother from that point on. I wasn’t about to subject myself to that pretense again.
However, deep in my heart, I knew I wanted to believe that marriage could be good – even grand. I’d seen a few marriages in my life that I believed to be just as sweet as they seemed to be, and I told God that if I could have a chance at a truly great marriage, I’d like to try again.
God came through! He brought into my life a wonderful man, and as I got to know him, I realized he was truly, as Ramona would call him, a “Nice Guy.” I trusted in his goodness, and we married.
I wanted this marriage to be different. I talked to God and told him I wanted to live true principles in this marriage, and asked Him to guide me daily. I would get ideas, and try them, and happiness would follow. However, I didn’t really understand what I was doing – I was simply following Divine guidance.
My husband and I have talked often about how we are so very happy, and how we are determined to make this the best marriage possible. We see other second marriages and the struggles they have, and we want to help others find the joy we have found. We were thinking about blogging about second marriages when a friend recommended Wife for Life, and I immediately checked into it and bought the book. Luckily for me, the next semester of Wife for Life University was just about to begin, so I enrolled.
What an enlightening, inspiring ten weeks it was! I am so very grateful for all I learned, and I know as I re-read the book and put into practice more and more of the principles our marriage will continue to grow in tenderness and resilience.
Now, I have gained understanding as to why the ideas I was given work! Ramona cites scientific studies and volumes of research explaining how men and women think and act, and it is so empowering now to not only know what to do but why! It is fascinating to me.
Wife for Life University is a brilliant concept. From my home I can interact with women from around the world and gain from their experience; and best of all, gain weekly exposure to Ramona, who is a gifted mentor and absolutely delightful (as is Hannah, her daughter and co-mentor!)
It is changing my life daily, and I know a grand marriage is possible – and even assured – as I continue using These glorious principles are changing my life daily. I will be forever grateful for Wife for Life University.
Thank you, Ramona, for answering the call to bless marriages across the world!